Relationships and its major types explained via a simple song

Jao na jao na jao na jao na…
[Tum jo ho to gaa rahi hai yeh hawa,
Tum jo ho to reshami si hai fiza,
Jao na jao na jao na..haan… jao na…

Jao na jao na jao na jao na…
[Tum jo ho to gaa rahi hai yeh hawa,
Tum jo ho to reshami si hai fiza,
Jao na jao na jao na..haan… jao na…

Hoo phir naa yeh raat aayegi,
Phir naa yeh rutt chahyegi,
Phir naa yu milna hoga,
Phir naa jaane kya hoga?
Jao na jao na jao na..haan… jao na…

Yeh raat thodi to dhalne do,
Dheere dheere isko pighalne do,
Aage hai do raah maana magar,
Thodi durr to saath chalne do,
Haan… Yeh raat thodi to dhalne do,
Dheere dheere isko pighalne do,
Aage hai do raah maana magar,
Thodi durr to saath chalne do,

Hoo khone wali ho kal tum,
Rukk sako jo do pal tum,
Kuch tumhari tasveerein,
Rakh lu apni aankhoin mein,
Jao na jao na jao na.. haan… jao na…

No, I am not converting this blog into a lyrics detailing website neither do I have any stake in the movie or the music company :-P,  the song is just something that I was hearing the other  day and which has inspired me to write this blog. But before I start off with this blog, I would like to say this is one of favorite songs, which has got a great melody while retaining its simple feel. You can read the lyrics above and watch video here on youtube.

While this song is beautiful, it also is an ideal example to depict any love affair. For example, this song is apt at the start of a love relationship, when the chemistry between the couple is budding and when the two are an inseparable lot sharing almost each and every thing (ahem). It is at this time that both the young at heart sing the song as is picturised in the movie viz., they have the pain the angst of separation.

Though this all hunky dory at the start of relation, there is dramatic and much expected twist as soon as the relation progresses and matures. Here the song switches onto these two major types, the first being

      a)      when the relation becomes clingy / needy i.e., one partner of the couple becomes the clingy type who always wants to be with the opposite partner, which results in the other partner aggrieved due to lack of space singing the song ‘Jao Na’ with the hidden meaning ‘Go Now, Give Me Some Space, Please, etc , etc.’ So the aggrieved partner basically wants the other person to be not so clingy and needy.

      b)      The other major type of mature relation is when one partner becomes overbearing or authoritative in the relation, calling all the shots in the relation. In this case, the other or the aggrieved partner sings this song ‘Jao Na’ in a pleading manner viz., asking the overbearing partner an opportunity to go out and enjoy. So basically this time the aggrieved partner is basically singing the song with the hidden meaning ’please let me go, can I go, should I go, my friends are waiting, etc’. 

      Readers of this blog may have various other categories of love relationships, however for me, these are two most commonly found.  While I wrote this blog to bring in the funny angle of a relation, I would also like to emphasise on how important it is for a couple to give each other space in a relationship while also sharing most of their important times with each other. This not only helps nurture and grow the relation but also prepare the groundwork of a strong, stable and fulfilling relation to make it a happily ever after love life. :-)